Arm yourself with these Mother’s Day coping strategies if celebrating the day is difficult.
If Mother’s Day is hard for you, you’re not alone.
Estrangements occur for various reasons and are likely not easily decided.
If you have kids,practice gratitudefor the opportunityto be a mom.
Bacon suggests establishing a response based on values instead of emotions.
What does this mean?
Think about paying your taxes.
You may not agree with how much you owe, but you believe you should contribute to society.
For example, you could start with a text or a card, which doesn’t require reciprocation.
“Despite the commercialism of Mother’s Day, it’s an opportunity to connect,” says Braverman.
Many moms know how to push your buttons, but you’re able to choose how to react.
I am comfortable with how I look," Braverman says.
Try focusing on one time when Mom didn’t drive you bonkers, Bacon suggests.
“It’s like you’re revisiting your grief,” says Bacon.
Honor Mom
To help, Bacon suggests writing a letter as a testament to Mom’s importance.
“Telling her what you want her to know is a way to feel connected,” Bacon says.
“Death doesn’t end a relationship; it just changes it.”
Mother’s Day tends to stir up many memories, for better or worse, about your mom.
If you had a positive relationship, think of the best way tohonor your late mother, suggests Braverman.
How you frame things can make a huge difference.
Changing what you emphasize in your mind can alter how you feel.
With reminders about motherhood all aroundfrom media portrayals to a simple errand runnavigating the holiday can be difficult.
Try some of these coping techniques, which may be helpful for anyone.
you could still honor your mother with a phone call, card, or flowers.
Be honest and share that you’re just not up for celebrating with aMother’s Day brunch.
Perhaps have a meal at home instead of eating at a restaurant.
Or plan a secluded outing where you and Mom can enjoy the day without crowds.
Maybe join a local walk or run honoring a cause you support.
Or perhaps honorMother Earthwith an environmental cleanup.
These activities can be done alone or with your mom.
