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And its often the latter.
How do I respond in a way that gives me the option to hang out but maybe not dog-sit?
JENNA BUSH HAGER:Well, thats a lot of responsibility in a friendship.
Its not very fair of her.
I think it’s crucial that you be transparent.
JBH:You dont think she needs to transparently say that she cant or doesnt want to dog-sit?
TPJ:I dont think she needs to say that part.
Just say, Im really looking forward to hanging out with you.
I havent seen you in a while.
I cant wait to go out and do something fun.
JBH:But what if the friend writes back and asks if she can dog-sit?
She just says she cant?
TPJ:Yes, exactly.
Friends shouldnt be putting us in bad positions, and they should accept a blanket no without an excuse.
She might get the hint and start being more clear with her asks.
But she recently posted a happy anniversary Facebook message stating that theyd had eight years of adventures.
That math doesnt matheven based on what I know now.
This seems so disrespectful, and it opened some old wounds!
Should I say something to her or him?
TPJ:You should definitely say something to the current wife!
TPJ:I actually dont think she should beat around the bush.
I think she has to be up-front and honest, especially when there are children involved.
Im guessing shell know youre right.
Would it be wrong to dump the bagged dog poo in a strangers bin rather than carry it home?
TPJ:Its fine!
JBH:Were all carrying too much crap already!
If its being picked up, I think thats fine.
Just see to it its tied properly.
And of course, if someone sees you and asks you to stop, apologize profusely.
But I really cant imagine anyone would have a problem with it.
Its trash, after all.
My in-laws, however, are relentless body shamers.
They get entertainment out of commenting on womens appearances on TV or out in public.
These little incidents have always made me feel uncomfortable.
They also dont align with how we want to raise our daughter.
How can I persuade them to rethink their actions, especially around my daughter?
TPJ:I also think you should talk to your in-laws.
I wouldnt make it about you.
Like Jenna said, make it about the grandkids.
JBH:Say that you dont want your daughter to think we talk about other women like that.
Add a little I know you dont mean it, but your words can impact your granddaughter.
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